Protip: Don’t be this retarded. If you consent to sex in a drunken stupor and regret it and declare “rape” afterwards, the whole ordeal is your fault and your fault alone because:
- You were stupid enough to consume too much alcohol.
- You were stupid enough to consume too much alcohol around people you shouldn’t be trusting.
- You fucking consented and the man believed he was permitted to have sex with you.
Quit victimizing yourselves (in such idiotic ways too) — you only perpetuate the “misogynist” stereotype that all feminists have a collective IQ in the two-digit range.
I need Feminism because when a woman points out that a “yes” given when you are unable to properly consent is NOT in fact proper consent, bigots call her ableist slurs.
You’re completely correct. However, the fact is that that woman did intentionally render herself "unable to properly consent". This unequivocal fact makes it entirely justified to blame the victim in these instances.
And you can go fuck yourself.
No. No, no no. It is never the victims fault. No one forces a rapist to take advantage of someone who is clearly too intoxicated to consent. You don’t get to give a rapist a free pass just because beer was involved.
Fucking disgusting rape apologists.
I think my “favorite” part is the fact that really, if a girl is MAKING HERSELF UNAVAILABLE TO ACTUALLY SAY YES, if she is intentionally rendering herself unable to properly consent, that is literally her saying no. How does that fact not register? If you fill up your day planner to where you literally cannot say yes, to a date or something… Does that mean that somehow you’re really saying yes, even though you literally cant?
What the fuck is wrong with these men?
"I’ve been saying this for years, that gender identity and sexual orientation are different but so many people don’t know. I think that the reason for that is that we are in the LGBT community and we get lumped with gay and lesbian folks and bisexual folks, but [for us] it’s not about sexual orientation, but gender identity. I also think that a lot of the issues that folks seem to have with gays and lesbians, particularly when kids are bullied, are about gender. It’s about someone assigned male at birth not acting the way a boy should act. So much of it comes down to gender and this fear of femininity in our culture. Julia Serano talks about this so brilliantly, even in the history of feminist theory, femininity has been presented as something that’s artificial and masculinity is something that’s authentic, and even in a lot of feminist discourse until recently, femininity was seen as something that was artificial and fake. So there is this fear of feminine that we see in a lot of different aspects of culture that is punished. That’s a part of patriarchy. In a lot of ways we can’t talk about homophobia and transphobia, without talking about patriarchy."
"These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.
This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works."